Anti-Bullying Information and Websites
Bullying is when a person or a group of people hurt, scare and/or are mean to someone else (or a group) on purpose, usually more than once.
What is an up stander?
An "up stander" is someone who recognizes when something is wrong and acts to make it right. When an up stander sees or hears about someone being bullied, they speak up. Being an up stander is being a hero: we are standing up for what is right and doing our best to help support and protect someone who is being hurt. In many ways, this is another word for being socially responsible.
Types of bullying:
There are all kinds of ways that people bully others. Here are the most common ways that people act as bullies:
· Shoving, punching, pushing or other ways of hurting people physically
· Leaving someone out of your group on purpose
· Ganging up on others. This can be done without being physical or with words. It can be done with mean ‘stares’ too.
· Teasing or being mean or inconsiderate in other ways verbally – with words. One of the most common ways that people do this is spreading bad rumors
· Cyber bullying: Cyber bullying is when kids bully others using texting, email or other technology. Some of the most common examples include: sending hurtful messages, and posting pictures or untrue messages on web sites, blogs or social networks, like Facebook and MySpace.
Why do students bully?
There are lots of reasons that students bully. First of all, too often students see adults being bullies! Sometimes, they think, “if they are doing, I will too!” Here are some other common reasons why students bully:
· Students sometimes feel that when others in their group are a bully that they need to be too, so they continue to bully to be accepted by the group.
· When we feel bad about ourselves (for any number of reasons!) being a bully can make us feel ‘stronger’ in the short run
· Sometimes people are afraid that if they are not a bully, someone else will bully them! Bullies are often being bullied on other ways – by parents or siblings at home, by teachers, or by others from their neighborhood – and they become a bully to let out their hurt and anger.
WHAT CAN I DO
:: When you’re bullied...
Being bullied is painful, but it is important to remember that you are not alone! Below are some tips on what you can do if you are being bullied.
· Don’t ignore the whole situation: When you are being bullied, you naturally just want to make it all go away. As a result, some of us just keep everything inside or even avoid going to school! Sometimes the bully does stop and moves on to someone else, but this doesn’t always happen.
· Always tell an adult you trust: Tell your parent, trusted teacher, school counselor or other trusted adult about what’s happening. Share all of the details, and let them know how this made you feel. Ask them what to do next.
· Keep in mind that no one deserves to be bullied. Bullies are not bad people, but they are doing bad things. Sometimes kids become bullies because they are bullied at home by their parents and are determined not to be bullied at school—so they bully others instead. Knowing this will help you understand that the bullying doesn’t have to do with you, but with the bully.
· Never fight back, but let the bully know you are not an easy target. Stay calm, and tell the bully with confidence and determination to “Stop it,” and to “Leave me alone.” Walk off with confidence.
· Stand up to the bully if you feel ‘safe enough’: This is sometimes easy to say and much harder to do! If you do feel safe enough, confront the bully by telling him or her how you feel, why you feel the way you do, and what you want the bully to do. For example, “I feel angry when you call me names because I have a real name. I want you to start calling me by my real name.”
· Be an Up stander even when you’re not being bullied. Read the Ways to Be an Up stander to learn about how you can actively fight bullying in your school.
· Do not respond directly to the bully’s teasing: Sometimes we just feel too scared to respond. Not responding is actually another good strategy that we can use when we are being bullied. To the best of your ability, just walk away! This also an important tip to remember when dealing with bullying online. Keep harmful messages from spreading by not responding, adding comments, or sending them on to friends. (Again, it is important to let an adult know about this. When you are bullied online, print out a copy of the text or picture and show it to a grownup).
· Don’t blame yourself! It is common for students to feel that they have somehow “caused” the bullying. Remind yourself that it’s not your fault and talk to a friend, adult in school, or parent about the way you feel! Write down your good qualities and discuss them with your family, and use this list as a reminder if you start to blame yourself or feel down.
:: When you see someone else being bullied...
· Tell an adult: Some kids think this is tattling or being a snitch, but it is not. When you tell an adult, you are helping someone else who needs support. Most adults really do want to know about bullying and they want to help. If you tell a grownup about this and they don’t respond, find another adult you trust and tell them. Many schools have programs to not only help prevent bullying, but to support people—kids and grownups!—standing up to bully behavior and saying “no, this is not an ok way to act!”
· Stand Up! See the 10 Ways to be an Up stander in your School.
:: Do you bully?
Actually, there are a lot of kids who act as a bully at some point in their life. Usually, this is because there is something that is making you feel really bad.* We might think that if we are “really strong” and push people around it will make us feel better. But this is never okay, and pushing people around will only make you and others feel worse. If you have been a bully, talk to an adult you trust. A lot of us are scared to tell a grown up that they have been a bully, but most adults will understand and want to figure out a plan to help you feel better and/or deal with whatever is making you feel bad.
Another very common reason why you may be bullying is that everyone else in your group is doing the same thing. This can make you afraid that if you stop being a bully that you won’t have any friends. Again, it is important to talk to an adult you trust. If you are not sure who to trust, see your school’s counselor, principal, nurse or assistant principal. They are often people in school who not only care, but will have very specific ideas about how best to deal with these kinds of situations.
* (If there are problems at home, please talk with a trusted adult. For an anonymous and confidential conversation, consider calling any of the hotlines at the bottom of the page or reaching out to Prevent Child Abuse.)
10 WAYS TO BE AN UPSTANDER
1. Help others who are being bullied. Be a friend, even if this person is not yet your friend. Go over to them. Let them know how you think they are feeling. Walk with them. Help them to talk to an adult about what just happened. (Just think for a moment about how great this would be if someone did this for you when you were being picked on or hurt!)
2. Stop untrue or harmful messages from spreading. If someone tells you a rumor that you know is untrue or sends you a message that is hurtful to someone else, stand up and let the person know this is wrong. Think about how you would feel if someone spread an untrue rumor about you. Don’t laugh, send the message on to friends, or add to the story. Make it clear that you do not think that kind of behavior is cool or funny.
3. Get friends involved. Share this site (and other related sites) with friends. Let people know that you are an up stander and encourage them to be one too. Sign the Stand Up Pledge, and make it an everyday commitment for you and your friends.
4. Make friends outside of your circle. Eat lunch with someone who is alone. Show support for a person who is upset at school, by asking them what is wrong or bringing them to an adult who can help.
5. Be aware of the bullying policy at your school and keep it in mind when you witness bullying. If there isn’t a policy, get involved or ask teachers or front office staff to speak about how you can reduce bullying.
6. If someone is new at your school, make an effort to introduce them around and make them comfortable. Imagine how you would feel leaving your friends and coming to a new school.
7. Refuse to be a “bystander”. If you see friends or classmates laughing along with the bully, tell them that they are contributing to the problem. Let them know that by laughing they are also bullying the victim.
8. Respect others' differences and help others to respect differences. It’s cool for people to be different – that’s what makes all of us unique. Join a diversity club at school to help promote tolerance in your school.
9. Ask your teacher or principal to develop a bullying program or project that will help reduce bullying in school. Ask them to bring together a team of students, parents and teachers to meet as “Stand Up Ambassadors” to talk about bullying on a regular basis and share stories and support. Talk about the “hot spots” where bullying most likely occurs (ex. the bus, bathroom, an unmonitored hallway) and what can be done on a school level to make sure students and teachers are on the same page about bullying.
10. Learn more about bullying. For example: Why do kids bully? Where does bullying take place most often in your school? What are the effects of bullying? Why are people afraid to get involved? Understanding this information will help you if you are bullied and will help you to stand up to bullies if a friend or classmate is being bullied.
*This information is taken from the www.bullybust.org website.
Cyber bullying InformationBully Free Video
http://www.safekids.com/tips-to-stop-cyberbullying/Common Sense-Anti Bullying Toolkit
https://www.commonsensemedia.org/educators/cyberbullying-toolkitStop Cyber Bullying
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We provide educational programs and resources to individuals, families, educational institutions and organizations. We make available online learning and educational resources in order to help people deal effectively and positively with the act of bullying and its long-lasting negative consequences.www.bullying.orgBullying Reporting Form
What is Cyber-bullying?Cyberbullying is the willful repeated harm inflicted through electronic devices. Using the Internet, cell phones, video game systems or other technology to send/post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass another person.How is it done?Cyberbullies pretend to be other people to deceive their targets and discover personal information.Bullies post pictures in an attempt to embarrass or hurt their victims.Bullies will send or forward lies or rumors about the victim via text messages.Bullies will create websites or fake online profiles in order to embarrass or hurt another person.Prevention...
• Never give out passwords, PIN numbers, etc: even to your best friend. • Keep personal information to yourself. • Never send messages or comments to others when you are angry, even if it's not at them. • Don't stay online all the time. There is a difference between virtual reality and the actual reality. • Don't reply to cyber-bullies. • If you've been bullied don't keep it to yourself, inform someone you trust, even if it's not a parent, tell a teacher. • Don't delete the messages from a cyber bully, if you delete it, you can't track it. So your bully cannot be punished. • Don't meet people you've met online in personSites for Additional InformationNetsmartz